Can we be real on this social network world?

I love Facebook.
It has it's advantages and disadvantages, as everything in life, but I love it.
I love to see baby pictures of friends I haven't seen in a while or live far away.
I love to see pictures of your travels, so I can live vicariously through you.
I love to see your graduation pictures, new job pictures, weight-loss pictures.
I love to share in your joy.

But sometimes, I feel sad of the face you feel you have to put on.
We are accustomed to showing our best side in social media that we are now doing it all the time.

I recently had the opportunity to pray for two married couples who were on the brink of destroying their marriage. I found out of the fact that their marriage was failing when it got to the point where it was evident and pretty much everyone knew. I was able to counsel these couples and pray fervently for them. Today, both of them are on their way to saving their marriage and making it work. Now, I don't mean to say that I had anything to do with them saving their marriages, but I was glad I could be a part of it. I could pray for them. I could send them Bible verses. I could remind them of God's love and mercy to them. I was able to be there for them.
Why didn't they opened up when the struggle began? Their Facebook page made it seem like everything was perfect. How come it was a shocking revelation when it had been happening for months!

I want to be there for you.
I want you to be there for me.
If I open up that I am struggling with depression, like some of my previous post have clearly showed, I want you to say something about it. Go ahead and send me an encouraging message or Bible verse. Go ahead and ask me how I am doing with those feelings. Go ahead and pray for me. I desperately need it.
Stop treating your friends in real life like you treat your friends in Facebook.
Don't put on your best face.
Tell me if you are struggling in your marriage, so I can tell you you are not alone.
Tell me how motherhood sometimes feels like too much and you feel like quitting.
Cry with me if you are in pain and need someone to cry with you.
Everyone feels the pressure of "keeping up with the Joneses", even in the Christian world and especially at church.
I love these verses:

Titus 2
3 Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. 4 Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.

This is what I want to do to be there for you and I want you to do for me.
This is what I want to emulate for you. 
But this is the hardest part of life and where we struggle the most. 
How can we be that to each other without being accountable and opened? 
How can I help you with your struggles in motherhood if I don't know them?
How can I help you grow in kindness to your husband if your Facebook page makes it look like you are but at home you aren't and you haven't opened up about that to anyone?
How would it help you if I post about my perfect marriage and my perfect grasp at motherhood?
That only helps to make you feel inadequate and alienated. 
How does it help to post about holiness and seeking sanctity without sharing my struggles about it and my daily walk to seek it?
I don't mean to say to lay it all on Facebook. Only nut heads like me do that in public places. 
But, be more real, please.

I want to see more real Christians. 
I want to see more relatable Christians. 
I want Christians to grasp what Jesus said when He said this:

Matthew 25
34 “Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. 35 For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, 36 I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’

37 “Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink?38 When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? 39 When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?’

40 “The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’

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